Our every day is filled with tasks that need to be done. Some of them we like doing, some of them are pretty tiresome, and while we enjoy some activities more than others, there are always things we simply hate committing our time to.
This type of life circle often leads to burn-outs. One day you might wake up and you’re simply full of it all. You don’t want to lift a finger, but you must, because your very existence might be endangered if you don’t go to work, don’t eat, and don’t bathe. But what to do when you simply have no more motivation for life?
Now, this is a problem we’ve all faced in our lives, at least once. A simple lack of motivation that can cause us to stop whatever we’re doing, and just ignore our obligations, or even not do anything at all. It stops our progress and makes us mentally immobile.
But, as highly productive as laziness can sometimes be while it makes you think of faster solutions to your problems, being too lazy and lacking motivation brings us nothing good in general.
Sometimes, it’s not about being lazy. Sometimes you just don’t want to do something because there are many factors included, whether it’s you boss, traffic, lack of money, children or something much more difficult to overcome, like depression, or the death of a loved one, or even a pet. These things can affect you more than you usually see or like to admit.
Grieving and letting your mind go with the flow won’t solve anything.
You need to start realizing what is wrong. And you need to do it before you start sinking deeper into that state.
It is your life, no one is going to live it instead of you.
First, let me make something clear. There is no problem that will stay a problem if you start working on it. Every problem in this world can be solved. There is absolutely no reason for you to feel sorry for yourself and do nothing.
Many of the techniques I will write about in here helped me a lot. I had my ups and downs, just like any other person did. I got out of it. And so can you.
Note that I’m speaking only about the lack of motivation. Depression is a different state, yet the lack of motivation can point to depression. If you are depressed, these advice might not work unless combined with therapy. Talk to your doctor first.
So, let’s start:
If you lack light, go buy some candles or a lamp. Sit next to a window while it’s daylight.
If you live in a small space, make sure you redecorate. Maybe a minimalistic style can give your brain the illusion of living in a bigger space.
Use mirrors to get depth and soothing wallpapers to make your walls look better.
If you’re not a fan of wallpapers, choose bright colors when you paint the walls.
Make sure you throw away anything you didn’t use in the last two months (this is my rule, I used to live like a hamster, collecting even unnecessary things, but then I realized I actually need a separate room for stuff I don’t even need anymore).
If you can afford, move out. You don’t have to be in one place, you are not a tree.
Realize one thing. People are not against you, they are for themselves.
So if your teacher or your boss seems a bit too much authoritative, maybe he has some issues to solve inside his head.
Sometimes, authority can be good in certain ways and, of course, within boundaries. You don’t have to fear those people, embrace them and learn from them. Take a look at them from a different angle.
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They have the authority because they have high self-esteem (or they’re faking it), they have faith in their ideas and they believe they are better than others.
Sometimes, that kind of people send the vibe that they can achieve anything.
So, maybe you could look up to them, separate the negative stuff they do and take in the positive ones. If there are no positive ones, then, maybe, after all, you are in the wrong place and you might need to look for another job. I know, it’s easier said than done, but you do not have to suffer at your current one.
It might do you good to try and observe other people’s views.
Being content with life as it is
‘The ship is safe in the harbor, but its bottom is slowly rotting away.’
If you are absolutely satisfied with your life as it is, that is wonderful.
But if that does not motivate you do start something new in your already settled life, maybe it’s time to think about your motives.
If your motives are not strong enough, try changing them. Maybe there are some motives you had as a child, like learning how to play an instrument. Work on that. Start slowly.
You don’t need to move out in order to change things, and get motivation, but adding something new to your life can mean a lot.
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Many of my days have passed in this numb state. I didn’t care about anything, I just wanted to lay down and ‘relax’, without even knowing what I was tired from!
Eventually, as I grew older, I started despising those days. I realized there are things that simply need to be done, like making lunch or cleaning the house, so I decided to start doing them one by one.
If I feel a lazy day coming, I make a small plan of my obligations for it. I applied the 1 minute rule. Pick a task that you can do only for 1 minute. You’ll see how fast that task passed and you’ll feel ready to conquer a next one. Don’t rush it. Take your time up to 5 minutes and do those tasks. Soon enough, you’ll do the worst ones that last the longest.
Anything might help. You don’t have to force yourself all the time and do big things.
Motivation will slowly come back to you, until you one day realize that it is ‘the lazy day’ but you still managed to achieve all that you had in mind.
That’s when you’ll feel the victory.
Lack of results
Have in mind that the results will come. We only think they won’t since sometimes they take time.
Nevertheless, if something happens that’s stopping you from achieving the goals, the goals will still be there, and the results will only be delayed. There is enough time for everything in your life. You just have to know how to use it well.
There is no need for you to intentionally stop yourself from whatever you’re doing, because the results will be there. Let go of that fear and dive in your motivation.
The closer you are to the results, and the more time passes, the better you will feel, and in the end you will be motivated to do something else.
Grab onto that feeling of a finished work. That will help you.
The idea of a time loss
As morbid as it sounds, we are all going to die.
And as rough as it seems, you will lose time in life.
In traffic, making lunch, eating, using the toilet, even sleeping.
You spend 1/3 of your life sleeping (maybe more if you like to sleep a lot). Still, you will manage everything simply because you can.
If there is a long-term project you need to finish within a longer period of time, make a plan. Divide it into certain parts, do it day by day. When I had to study, I used the same trick. If a book had 500 pages, I wanted to learn all in 5 days. I divided the book, but in a certain way. I always add ten or twenty pages more for one day, so the number of pages I had to read and learn for one day was 120.
That is how I could allow myself a day off if I lose my motivation and have no worries.
This way, if I could learn a 100 pages, 20 more won’t be a problem. Of course, if I felt like I can do more, why not.
Time spared for tomorrow. That’s how I passed most of my exams.
Apply the same to your project and you will have a spare day, or maybe even more, and you won’t feel like you’re losing your time too much for one ‘session’.
Stress or overwhelm
Stress can be pretty hard to overcome. No one likes to surpass the imposed obligations while under stress. The worst part is that you get more stressed if you don’t have motivation for action.
I would suggest meditation for this kind of problem. Guided or not, you’ll be able to clear your mind and gain new strength to cope.
There are many YouTube channels that explain how you should meditate and what happens in your mind while you do.
HINT – when they say that a 5 minute meditation is enough – it isn’t.
You can barely get your brain into the necessary frequency for that amount of time. What they do is not meditation, it’s just relaxation.
Take at least half an hour a day. Do your best to practice meditation on a regular basis, and you will feel your stress being swiped away as time goes by.
As your stress level gets lower, your motivation level will rise and you will end up boosted and stress-clean.
On the other hand, being overwhelmed is also bad. It’s all about the habits. We are used to multitasking in these modern times.
If by the end of the day you feel like you can’t breathe and you still didn’t finish all the chores, you need to find some time for relaxation.
Again, meditation is a great tool.
Make a plan and remember to look at it from time to time and to follow it and organize tasks. It can be hard to get used to this, but if you want to help yourself, nothing is too hard.
Lack of self-esteem
Knowing yourself is the key to beating this issue. You need to keep the constant communication with your inner being. Get to know you values and flaws, possibilities and limitations.
SWOT analysis is a great way to start.
It’s a structured planning method used to evaluate the Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats involved in a project or in a business venture. Only with the difference that you can apply this to yourself, with a bit of brainstorming.
This analysis will help you realize where exactly you sit, and how to help yourself.
Lack of concentration
Try using repeated affirmations or hypnosis.
It is well known that classical music helps with lack of concentration. If your mind is wandering all the time, maybe some concentration exercises can help too. In the beginning it might look hard to follow, or your mind can still drift off, but as you progress one day, soon enough, you will find yourself focused enough to one specific thing.
The ability to focus can be developed and maintained just like any other skill, and persistency is the key. The sooner you start, the faster you will reach the goal of a better focus.
Lack of aim
You need to make your aims clear. You need to reach inside and observe your emotions and desires, and awaken the passion for a certain aim in order to be motivated enough to accomplish it.
Once you do that, you need to make sure you are aware of the actions that will help you achieve your goal.
Most goals aren’t usually achieved in a day. You need to make many steps, some small, some big, in order to finally achieve a destination.
While you go through the process, there are many negative and positive outputs that can distract you. Your focus on the positive things is important.
Leave a comment with what’s your biggest issue when it comes to motivation and how you solve it.
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